4) Not being attracted to Black women

April 9, 2008 at 6:54 pm | In Preferences | 7 Comments

(A typical Thursday night at the apartment – Beyonce’s newest music video appears on the television in the living room)
Asian male #1: “Do you think Beyonce is hot?”
Asian male #2: “No, not really. I mean, I can see how she is pretty, but I’m just not attracted to her, you know?”
Asian male #1: “Yeah, I know what you mean, I’m the same. She has a great body and nice face, but I don’t really feel it. What about Tyra Banks?”
Asian male #2: “Ugh! Not at all. The face does not do it for me.”
Asian male #1: “Maybe we’re genetically wired just to find Asian and White women attractive?”
Asian male # 2: “Perhaps. Let’s go watch The Scorpion King. I can never get enough of Kelly Hu.”

It is a universal rule that Asian males cannot be attracted to Black women. There are two theories explaining this phenomenon. The first is that Asian males are not exposed to Black girls during middle and high school, and therefore do not have the experience to properly appreciate the beauty of Black women. The second, and probably more credible theory, is that Black women rarely find Asian males attractive, and thus it is a simple case of Asian males preferring women that they have a non-zero probability of obtaining, which is the efficient use of their dating effort.

This is an extremely touchy subject to broach around Asian males. However, to defuse the potentially ruinous consequences of the subject, just say that you really liked the movie Romeo Must Die and that Aaliyah was great in it. This serves as a reminder that there are Black women that find Asian men attractive. However, to obtain relationships with them requires successful life-saving situations using martial arts.

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this website is genius. i really like your writing style. hahah.

in the movie do they ever kiss or anything? isn’t it just a bunch of implied sexual tension?… if so, that would further go to show you that even with life saving martial arts it’s still not feasible, even in a fictional setting..

Comment by brian — April 9, 2008 #
thanks, glad you like it.

no, they do not kiss or anything, just a lot of flirty banter and a hug at the end. A hong kong superstar could not even get the job done.

Comment by jedthedino — April 9, 2008 #
What about a korean or a japanese super star? Could they get the job done? And if life saving martial arts was replaced by seductive dancing, would that make a difference?

Comment by png — April 10, 2008 #
theoretically yes, it could happen. however, since there are no precedents, we are in the same position as the world before the 4-minute mile, atomic bomb, and cloned animals. easy to say, hard to do.

Comment by jedthedino — April 12, 2008 #
Hmm interesting post. I personally think Jet Li definitely gets the job done *He’s gorgeous!* However I honestly think *and when I say this my intention in not to offend anyone* But I do believe the reason why there isn’t a kiss scene is that the filmmakers did not want to upset the Asian audience, since Asian culture is very much still steeped in tradition. *Which I admire greatly* Even if we are to look at Asian men and white female relationships in films it’s still quite a rare pairing, the biggest one I can recall off the top of my head is The King and I- and didn’t it only have unresolved sexual tension also?

I’m a black female and I tell ya all my lady friends were definitely up for a kiss scene with Aaliyah and Jet Li. I personally wish the filmmakers were bolder when creating such movies because it’s the only way to start break down all those preconceived/ taboo notions of black women and Asian men parings.

On a lighter note and a little secret I’ll let you all in on. If any black female has Romeo must Die on their list of top films it’s definitely not for the “martial arts” it’s definitely for Jet Li! ^_^

Comment by Cutestuff — March 5, 2009 #
Here’s the deal. Asian guys prefer white women first because that’s what they’re around. If you’re black they’ll still look at you but you will have to have something to offer, (looks, personality, smarts, etc.).

Black men also do the EXACT same things. Just go to destee.com and you’ll see what I’m talking about. I’ve seen the men there say wild things like black men don’t like Beyonce or black men prefer skinny girls or what ever. And don’t get me started on those sites that cater to black guys and white women. What they say is even more disgusting.

Really, Asian guys aren’t that bad. I’m with one and I’m NOT Aaliyah. I’m a fat housewife with VERY kinky hair and a big bottom. From ALL perceptions NO ONE would want me. I don’t really care about that, because when I look in my bedroom I see a REAL Asian man in my bed, (as he’s of South Korean heritage). Some of the size 3 women may not have that, (though I’m not against size 3 women). )

Anyway, don’t fret. If you really want an Asian man I can assure you despite all the hate and racism there’s one out there for you. )

Comment by Kristina — May 16, 2009 #
HI, I was reading this post doing some research and this is a very interesting post. However, as a BW I have to disagree. Although culture does play an important role in whom we are socialized to chose as mates, it does not mean that Asian men do not find BW attraction or do not establish long term, sexual, committed relationships to us. There are tons of Asian men who do! I think doing more research is in order. Many men of all races have found BW attractive for eons and Asian men are NO different. I myself LOVE Asian culture, to a large degree and their reverence for family, and community. Something that is that far off from our black communities.
On to the posters. Being in the broadcasting industry, one knows that the media is not going to promote ANY man other than a black man, and even then the stereotypes are going to present. Asian men are kept A-sexual in movies, its a form of racism. Asian men are alway portrayed as either mystical, monsters, or hyper sexual (as in the ol school type films portraying their culture as in dynasties.) So, to have Jet Li kiss Alliyah forgive the misspelling) is unheard of. So all they do is allude to sexual tension. Asian men are not depicted as sexual creatures, the racist stereotypes on penis size and virility is another factor that perpetuates this lie.
If you look at popular Asian males in film, NONE OF THEM ARE PORTRAYED as sexual creatures. Its sad really! The black man is depicted as OVER SEXUAL. So, it is not about Hollywood getting bold, its about someone stepping up the to plate and showing the real deal in these movies, but that is hard to do when corporate teams are FUNDING YOUR FILMS AND THEY HAVE THE LAST WORD.

Try not to let ANYONE SHAPE your mind in seeking what it is YOU desire. I seek and desire Asian men as well. Let me be clear when I say seek, I am not hunting or looking but doing tons of research and making connections, friends, so when I am ready to step out there, I will be well versed in the politics, the culture, and issues in AsianMale/Blackwomen relations. Going after what you want is a good thing, but educating yourself is something that is even better.
Krisitina you mentioned Destee.com. I am a member on that site and I know that a lot of issues on that site that are discussed are very deep indeed. Brotha’s on that site are PAN AFRICAN, meaning they are about uplifting and supporting the black family, culture and ideals. So for them to say “no no to Beyonce” who is a product of white man america is not shocking. If one were to put on thread up about loving asian men as a black women, I wonder what would happen, the board would BLOW UP! So, the brotha’s are real but they are also polarized.
Since you described yourself as a down home sista with a Asian male! I say, if you can get one then I know I can! lOl.

Take care!
Moon

Comment by Moon Child — September 22, 2009 #